Comments on: Little Demon: The Adored One

By: Little Demon: The Adored One Part III

Little Demon: The Adored One Part III — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 06:44:37 +0000

[...] a couple of my friends have asked me, in reference to my posts Little Demon: The Adored One and Little Demon: The Adored One: The Adored One Part II, how can I be sure that my feelings are [...]

By: Alison

Alison — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 13:14:22 +0000

I should have added to that last comment, whilst I need to be connected on an emotional level, I don’t experience attraction to everyone I get close to.

In the same way, you might be good looking or desirable physical features but that doesn’t automatically denote a sexual connection.

By: Alison

Alison — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 12:56:24 +0000

Okay I get you buy don’t dismiss the idea because it doesn’t play out so often. Noone is attracted to everything, thus it naturally follows that the process you’re going through won’t happen with everyone you meet. Why don’t you try analysing what you like about the person? What makes you feel so latched?

For the record, I don’t think what you’re experiencing is unique. For me to be deeply attracted to someone, I have to be connected on an emotional level otherwise it doesn’t happen. That comes with all kinds of weird hazards.

We live in an age that promotes physical or stuff like porn, and too often the expectation exists this is the only mode to experience attraction. Its not. Why are you feeling the need to go through all this questioning, that you are confusing whatever? Its almost like a motivation that you’re abnormal for doing so and must question the process or its the wrong kind of attraction. Ditch the bullshit, that’s just you. Accept. If you take physical attraction you would not do a complete analysis of why you were attracted to a man, if you were confusing some light rays and whatever, simply cos the feeling might not be mutual. So what’s the difference here?

The real issue is a) do you want to let the person know what you feel, b) where feelings are not mutual, how you are best going to deal with it. End of story, just pick up a few insights along the way who Tony is.

Lots of love, your bossy friend(!)

By: Little Demon: The Adored One Part II

Little Demon: The Adored One Part II — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 07:04:38 +0000

[...] I was out walking, I was thinking about what I wrote in Little Demon: The Adored One. Coming back to the issue of, why would tell My Adored One, if it won’t give me what I [...]

By: Tony

Tony — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 06:48:56 +0000

I have to laugh at this. I keep getting asked this question. To be honest, I don’t really know. If it were simply that scenario you outlined, then I would be doing it more often. As it is, it rarely happens to me like this. So, I am inclined to say that I am responding to something.

In each case, I was not consciously looking at all…..